★TIPS for beginning new things…..

LOVE NOTE – 31st May/1st June 2011

Hello and Good Morning!! Hear me singing to you:

Oh what a beautiful mornnnnnnnnnnnning 

Oh what a beautiful daaaaaaaay

I’ve got a wonderful feelinnnnnnnnnnnng

Everything’s going my way….

“How many lives can you touch in just one day? Make your influence a positive one.” 

I found these words on a new site I was looking at yesterday –  and was so touched by what I read about what they do and what they are sharing with the world. I value highly how for them selling their products and services is about being ♡heart-centred.

I saw a reference the other day to the difference between hard-sell’ and ‘heart sell’ and they are very definitely in the business of ‘heart-sell’…..I guess when I am reflecting, one of the reasons it impacted me is because it is of uppermost importance to me as well in my business…….

Connecting from my heart to yours….

So I am delighted and so excited and feeling truly grateful to all the courageous souls who have opened their hearts and jumped onboard the 30 DAY BEING-♡LOVE CAMPAIGN –

30 Day Being-Love Campaign – Your Loving Matters

WooHooooooo!! June 1st is the official start date… I’m so grateful for the ripples of ♡LOVE that have already started just from people stating their intentions in the Comments on the Blog ….all the ways people are being willing to stretch their caring and loving for the people that matter to them.

People have come from a few different places in the world…mostly from Australia and the US….

It’s the first day of June already in Australia yet it is still the last day of May here in the United States!! ……

You know I find it so bemusing…..in living my life and working ‘across’ two countries….. with ‘My Australian day’ starting usually about 3pm my time here in Seattle, (in Australia, that’s 8am on the east coast and 6am on the west coast) and it’s already tomorrow – LOL! It’s like I have a bridge permanently between the two worlds…or maybe it’s like having a foot in both worlds… Every now and then I sit pondering about this…….but not too seriously…..

Back to our 30 DAY BEING-♡LOVE CAMPAIGN – my ♡BLC as I’m calling it!! To me that stands for my BEING-♡LOVE CAMPAIGN as well as my BEING-♡LOVE COMMUNITY as we are all in this together. ….When someone shares about someone LOVING them and how LOVED they feel it leads me to feeling more ♡LOVE just hearing about it…..and it then reminds me and energizes and inspires me to be more LOVING as well…. ripples of LOVE :O)….  that’s touching and influencing other people’s lives in a positive way…. 

So here’s some TIPS FOR BEGINNING NEW THINGS to support you starting any new project. Reminding yourself of these can help to keep you on track – they are
all ♡TOOLS in our Communication ♡TOOLBOX/TREASURE CHEST which I introduce in the post in the Blog on Monday 14th March 2011 

The Communication TOOLBOX/TREASURE CHEST

There is a ♡heart in the bottom of our ♡TOOLBOX/TREASURE CHEST to remind us that using any ♡TOOLS from the heart and not just our head gives us a much higher chance that the ♡TOOLS will work effectively.

We always have in mind that our job is to connect to the heart of the other. CONNECTION is our most important goal.

Our primary goal when using the ♡TOOLS is NOT to get ‘the Other’ to behave or act in the way we want them to…we use them so that we can behave in a way that is loving and caring of ourselves, ‘the Other’ and our
relationship.

For starters we can use the following ♡TOOLS:

  • Little things make a big difference…starting with baby steps….and just keeping on extending ourselves bit by bit, day by day, step by step….’I can do it
    steps!’
    … micro-MOVE-ments
  • Choose to take ‘SMART’ steps – that is:

–       Be SPECIFIC about how you will act differently with the person you are focusing on

–         set yourself a goal you can MEASURE which allows you to assess whether you have done it or not

–         make it ACHIEVABLE – DO-able and realistic

–         make it RELEVANT to the goal you want to achieve

–         TIME LIMITED – set yourself a daily time schedule

    • Put it in the POSITIVE (eg: A minimum of once per day I will do __X___ that makes ‘the Other’ feel noticed and that they are important to me…… instead of describing it by saying I am not neglecting or not ignoring ‘the Other’)
    • Give myself “L- Plates” (Learner plates) or another idea is “Training Wheels” – it is OK to be a bit wobbly as you are learning and practising new ways of being and even sometimes we may “crash” and make mistakes
    • Each time you have a go at a new way of behaving it is An Experiment.
    • The ACTIONS I take create the RESULTS I get

      The ACTIONS I take create the RESULTS I get. So if you want different RESULTS check out the ACTIONS you have done and ‘tweak them’, do something different and notice what happens.

    • Quit doing what doesn’t work. Quit doing more of the same. You know the quote that goes something like “insanity is doing the same  thing over and over and expecting something different……”
    •  Keep doing what does work!
    • Remember you are in the process of creating new LOVE MUSCLES and HABITS – and change doesn’t happen overnight and takes time and practice, practice, practice – Repetition – doing it over and over and over…..
    • Be intentional and have integrity – choose what you are going to DO and DO it
    • Be unattached to how the person you are focusing on receives your gifts of care and loving…..make what you do and give unconditional
    • Associate your new tasks with ROUTINES you already have
      – brush your teeth, go kiss your partner; turn on the computer, send them a loving email, come home from work, give them a warm hug……Associate your new loving acts with an aspect of your routine and they are more likely to become automatic – especially important for men who are more creatures of routine.
    • You will be stretching out of your comfort zone – it might even feel NOT like who ‘you are’!
    • Use all of your senses and visualize a picture of how your new relationship will look like…..imagine it like you are taking new photos or a video – click, click, click…..

As well, I recommend checking out the pages of this blog at the beginning of February when we were at the Ayurvedic Rejuvenation Retreat in Kerala – I talk a lot about change and the steps and ♡TOOLS that help.

AND DON’T FORGET TO ASK FOR SUPPORT – Our dear ‘ENERGIZER BUDDIES’ 

ENERGISER BUDDIES – supportive cheer leaders you can call on when you need them…Ask for help from friends; reach out to others. We all need people to support us and mirror and validate us. In person is good and also put it out to the social media networks you are part of, and/or request it of the BEING-♡LOVE COMMUNITY. 

 My hunch is that for those of you doing the 30 DAY BEING-♡LOVE CAMPAIGN it will take you to places you would not have imagined….I request those of you participating sending in how it is going for you…..it is amazing the ripples that happen from one person’s sharing. Know that your experience has the potential to touch many lives in just one day……

May you all be feeling happy, nurtured and important…… and Happy Experimenting and growing…

With De-LIGHT and gratitude, Susie xx

  • walk the heart path……

     

    “The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do.”   ♡Sarah Ban Breathnach

    “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great” ~♡Zig Ziglar

    “Life is like riding a bicycle. It’s better if you keep moving.” ♡Einstein

    “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all
    the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ♡Rumi

    ___________________________________________

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About susiesheartpathblog

My wish with Susies♥HeartpathBlog is to connect and relate to you from my heart and soul and mind to your heart and soul and mind …..whilst sharing information and Resources about ♡LOVE-ing and Relationships and FULL exuberant ALIVENESS★…. My intention is to provide a space where you can engage with me and with the community of those who are ‘walking’ the ♥HEART PATH of conscious relationships….. people who daily make choices and actions about becoming and being more ♡LOVE-ing…….people who care that their partners and families and friends and the wider community feel ♡LOVE-d and ♡LOVE-able… people who are curious about and respect and validate the reality of ‘the other’ and who choose to create and live in a Zero Negativity Zone [ZNZ zone].... I am committed to teaching and sharing practical user-friendly communication ♡TOOLS and Skills and processes that lead to growth and deep healing, connection, ♡LOVE and intimacy. I am a passionate net-worker and committed to connecting people to the abundance of Resources that are available – I believe much of what we need is out there, yet people don’t often know the Resources are there or if they do, where to find them. I love putting people in touch with opportunities and possibilities….
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2 Responses to ★TIPS for beginning new things…..

  1. Ramona says:

    Hi Susie!
    I’m doing this project too, to create a more loving relationship with my mother, who has passed away. She died of Alzheimer’s in 2002, but I’m doing this so that my heart can be at peace, because when she was alive, we did not have a good relationship. I want to remedy this through my version of your 30-Day Being-Love Campaign, which I call More Love for Amanda. Amanda is my mother’s name.

    This is my blog and every day, I try to post a new digital scrapbooking page, which I create for my Dreaming Art Journal at this url:
    http://wildwoodplanet.net/blogs/blog5.php

    Anyone is welcome to come over and have a look. 🙂
    Thank you for sharing this great project with the world, Susie!
    big hugs Ramona

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  2. Dear Ramona,
    What a Gift/Treasure/Offering/Reward your blog and your pages about your project in relation to your Mum that you are doing as your 30 Day Being Love Campaign. I feel truly honoured for you to share this with us all.
    It is so inspiring and touching to me – I recommend everyone treat themself and go visit these wonderful pages…they’re truly special….I admire your creativity and vulnerability and openness and the beauty of it all… with gratitude and a full heart, Susie xx

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