♥LOVE NOTE – Thursday June 30, 2011
Celebrations and Completions!!
Today is a double completion for me. ‘Officially’ it’s DAY 30 of our 30 DAY BEING-♡LOVE CAMPAIGN – Hooray!! Well done!!….
And today is also the funeral and celebration of the life of my older brother ♡Jeffrey. I celebrate him for unique human being he has been and the gifts he has shared on this Earth….
Let me celebrate ♡YOU and all the ♡LOVE-ing actions you have been doing over the month of June whether you have been doing the 30 DAY BEING-♡LOVE CAMPAIGN or not.
How inspirational and generous so many of the sharings have been! My heart is FULL and grateful hearing your stories.
Are you celebrating and rewarding yourself for all your micro-MOVE-ments or quantum leapings that you have done? Please share with us….
I celebrate my learnings of the last 30 DAYS and the openings into areas of my heart that have been neglected and put to one side for too long. It has been joyous for me to pay quality attention to my sisters and because of the ripple effect to my other siblings….. I feel blessed to share that this led to focusing much more on my brother than I normally do. How serendipitous!
Question for you: Have you been neglecting and maybe even abandoning someone in your family that needs and deserves your ♡LOVE-ing attention?
One of the gifts ♡Jeffrey has left me is an important quote of his which is:
“A trying time is no time to quit trying”
For various reasons and because we lived on opposite sides of the country our sharing with each other has been irregular….and I didn’t know that about him….and I won’t forget it when thoughts of giving up rise in me… He had many overwhelming health challenges and it is a tribute to him that he has been alive for this long.
Hearing others at the funeral talk about his life and their friendship with him reminded and highlighted for me how different people perceive the same person or in fact any situation. There were many things I learnt about him that I didn’t know and I am grateful for their perceptions and their ♡LOVE for him.
Sitting at the funeral an idea came to me which I am grateful for, as in our work we regularly come across people struggling with being stuck in viewing ‘the other’ with negativity. I propose a practice when we are stuck or in a conflicted, reactive place to view ‘the other’ through the eyes of someone who cares for and values ‘the other’.
To commemorate ♡Jeffrey I am going to call it:
♡JJ eyes or looking through the eyes of ♡LOVE.
I will add this as a ♡TOOL to our communication ♡TOOLBOX we teach in our workshops.
As well, when we are stuck in negativity it usually means we will be criticizing and judging ‘the other’ as a person and not just their behaviour.
“I can’t understand how a person could do____________”
insert whatever their ‘negative actions’ are…….
This is usually how it is said….
If it feels impossible for you to think of anyone saying anything positive about ‘the other’
– who is triggering or scaring you,
– or you are resentful about,
– or you’re blaming or whatever ‘negative’ emotion you have,
imagine that you have been asked to do a eulogy at this person’s funeral…..
You might be thinking at this point – At last “I’ll get at chance to expose this creep/jerk/scoundrel/villain/nasty piece of work to everyone!!!”…….
See yourself go up to the podium and look around and see sad eyes looking at you waiting for your words to offer them some comfort in their loss. Visualize yourself exposing all those attacking, hurtful things about them that you know to be true…….
Notice how that feels. Did it give you peace? What did you learn about you?
EXERCISE/PRACTICE – any time you find yourself criticising or judging ‘the other’ have a go at using ♡JJ eyes. Perceive them through the eyes of someone who cares for and values them.
Question for you: Who have you been criticizing or judging who needs you to use ♡JJ eyes?
Question for you: Who in your life do you need to complete something with to be able to open your heart again?
LOVE from a congratulating and celebrating Susie♥
“You don’t get to choose how you’re going to die. Or when.
You can only decide how you’re going to live. Now.” ~ ♡Joan Baez
“It’s not how many breaths you take…….it’s how many moments take your breath away”♡