♥LOVE NOTE – Thursday August 4, 2011
To let you know if you are struggling….or feeling anxious… frightened, helpless, worried, like giving up, powerless, out-of-control…..like nothing feels safe and secure anymore….and being positive and moving forward feels hard and overwhelming and not even possible…
to remind you that in reading this you are a part of a network that cares about what you are going through…..and that there is help for you to strengthen your life and all your relationships to be what you want them to be.
One of the biggest steps is to not just withdraw and keep it to yourself, but to know that there are many out there who are feeling similar things, as well as others who value you being authentic and that there is help for whatever is happening for you…
For me, reminding myself I’m not alone in my pain makes it more bearable and endurable.
You are not alone.
Do let us know how it is for you…….you can share here anonymously…..or how about finding just one other person you can share with……just take five minutes to do something different in terms of reaching out….one small step……let someone else know what is going on for you…..maybe ask someone to be there for you, to listen…
And it is NOT OK that your ‘I-can’t-do-it’ voice has to ‘yell and scream loudly’ for it to be heard. It is OK for you to speak softly and for it and you to not be questioned or judged or dismissed or talked out of…….just to be heard and validated.
Holding it together…..looking like everything is going fine…can be so exhausting.
Today’s Addition to my list of My ♥favourite things….. The poem The Guest House by ♡Rumi……it reminds me of my human-ness.
One simple thing that works for me is to remind myself:
this too shall pass!!..
And sometimes if it feels so depressing maybe all there is to hang onto is
One day at a time!!!
or even one hour at a time!!!
and sometimes just one minute!!
or even just one deeeeeep calming breath!
When it is hardest try saying these over and over like a mantra….. or maybe singing them…. or you could write them in lots of different ways…..perhaps make a collage…
Also know there are many specific wonderful resources, techniques and processes that can be used at stressful times that can be learned, and with coaching become our default automatic ways to respond. Getting professional help with this is advised. Please reach out if you would like help with this.