♥ DAILY LOVE TIP – Saturday November 5, 2011
Hello special ♥People,
This month we are experiencing a high level of commitments which includes travelling again this Thursday to Brisbane for a week where we will present an Imago Couples Workshop as well as other things so I just wanted to let you know that I am aiming to post on the blog on the odd-numbered days for this month….Any guest bloggers gratefully welcomed!……♥
One of the things that is sooooooooo hard for us is getting the message/consciousness out about how people need TO LEARN HOW TO have ♥LOVE-ing and happy relationships………….
For instance, I had a young couple yesterday morning for counselling and they have been married for about 10 years and have 2 young children and they are having problems in their marriage and were close to separating. One thing that came up was that they have shared very little affection between each other let alone sex which they have very infrequently. And they go months and months without sex, and in fact any physical connection which the woman has very little desire for …..and what she says is that this is THE NORM amongst her girlfriends, which sadly research supports…
The question ringing loudest for me is why aren’t all these people signing up in droves to do the workshops to learn how to ♥LOVE so that all aspects of relating and mating are easy and second nature??? Why has this state of affairs become acceptable in our society?? It is ♥heart breaking!
I wonder whether you realize this simple but powerful fact – that actually our survival literally depends on the healing power of ♥LOVE, intimacy and relationships. As individuals, as communities, as a country, as a culture.
♥LOVE and survival – So what do they have to do with each other? you might be thinking…….
Says noted expert on heart disease, Dr Dean Ornish M.D. in his book
“Love and intimacy are a root of what makes us sick and what makes us well, what causes sadness and what brings happiness, what makes us suffer and what leads to healing….If a new drug had the same impact, virtually every doctor in the country would be recommending it for their patients!! [my highlighting and exclamation marks] It would be malpractice not to prescribe it.”
Dr Ornish offers many examples of rigorous scientific studies from his own research and from studies of others around the world that demonstrate that comprehensive lifestyle changes may begin to reverse even severe coronary heart disease WITHOUT drugs or surgery.
He states most emphatically:
“I am not aware of any other factor in medicine – not diet, not smoking, not exercise, not stress, not genetics, not drugs, not surgery – that has a greater impact on our quality of life, incidence of illness, and premature death from all causes.”People who feel lonely and isolated, he reveals, “have a 300 to 500% greater risk of premature death from physical illness.“
Ornish goes on to say “the real epidemic in our culture” is what he calls emotional and spiritual heart disease, the profound sense of loneliness, isolation, alienation and depression that are so prevalent today as the social structures that used to provide us with a sense of community and connection break down.
But ♥LOVE and intimacy, you say? Opening my heart emotionally? And feeling……..and relating? I’ve cited the research before of the appalling crisis in our society with a 50% rate of breakdown for first marriages and 65% for the second. That’s a lot of unhappiness and loneliness and aloneness…….
It’s so heartening for me to find scientific research that supports my belief in the importance of relationships and ♥LOVE. Many people just delegate ♥LOVE and relationship to the realm of the “touchy-feely” and don’t take them seriously.
We are nearing a significant date this Friday of the 11.11.11 and I invite you to commemorate it with choosing to commit to prioritizing ♥LOVE, intimacy and quality relationships in your life.
Questions for you: What are you doing about insuring your life and survival? What are you doing to create quality ♥LOVE relationships in your life? What gets in the way of you doing this?
I’m curious about what matters most to you? What do you daily prioritize;…..what will you be putting at the top of your New Year’s resolution List with the fastly approaching ending for this year? Will it include doing what ever it takes to make your wife, husband, partner, children, friends, family, the people who matter to you, feel more ♥LOVE and cared for?…………of being the best partner you can be? Have you let another year go by without getting around to it and continuing to live in a ♥LOVE-starved marriage/relationship similar to the couples above?
Remember the feeling of your eyes lighting up or your heart skipping a beat when one of your loved ones enters the room or even just thinking about them….. Doesn’t it feel sooooooo good to ♥LOVE that much?………So, I challenge you to commit yourself to learning to love deeper…….to choose relationship education as an essential part of life…….to equip yourself with a range of relationship and communication ♥TOOLS……….Just going back over the ♥ DAILY LOVE TIPs would be a place to start…….
Am I sounding like a broken record I wonder?………..
Every action, every micro-MOVE-ment of expanding your ♥LOVE-ing matters!….. And all suggestions on how to motivate/attract/educate people gratefully received.
Thank you for caring, hopefully and with LOVE Susie♥
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return”
~ from ‘Nature Boy’, sung by Nat King Cole, written by Eden Ahbez.