♥LOVE NOTE – Sunday January 29, 2012
Hello Treasured and Valued Ones…..♡
I have just found this amazing THINK quote and we have decided to adopt it as a new ♡TOOL in our Communication ♡TOOLBOX/TREASURE CHEST.
What a great list of questions to ask ourselves to clean up what comes out of our mouths….The challenge is engaging our brain to ask the questions ‘in the heat of the moment’!! 🙂
Stopping horrible, mean, nasty, hurtful, reactive, attacking, snarly, abusive, criticizing, sarcastic, unkind words… in fact all the SCABS [a quick review for the Graduates of the work – test yourself before looking.]
By THE SCABS we mean:
C-riticism, C-ontempt, C-ondescension, C–omparing
A-ttacking, A-ggression, A-ccusing, A-rrogance
B–laming, B-elittling, B-ullying, B-arbs
It’s just such a continuing task….. You know all those words that you wished you hadn’t said when you’ve calmed down.
I don’t know about you but I need help with this one…Jumping in to protect myself using strong and loud words which are emphasized with TONE and harsh face is so hard-wired in me it just takes over against all my resolves and good intentions. It is embarrassing to own up at my inability to stay conscious and ♡LOVE-ing all the time.
How do you stop yourself being reactive and unkind?
You know I’m sitting here having a fantasy of finding a DEVICE which we could attach/insert into our mouths which our words would go through and it would eliminate all that aren’t TRUE , HELPFUL, INSPIRING , NECESSARY and KIND.
All the ones that are negative and horrible.
Maybe it could be a bit like braces or a mouth guard, …..maybe with a magical salve or a computer chip in them and it would delete or eliminate any words that don’t fit the format….. or maybe again we could just take some sort of
MAGIC ELIXIR or POTION♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*¸.•*¨`*
OR CALL OUR DEAR OLE•*¨*•.¸¸♥
or take a daily VITAMIN K – Be KIND VITAMIN …….. or maybe wear a MUZZLE that doesn’t even let us open our mouth.
Or just plain old masking tape or duct tape.
Any you can think of?…….Hey let’s help each other here.
What do you do that helps you to stay ‘conscious’ and kind and ♡LOVE-ing? Any great tips??? Ones that work so that you actually use the ♡TOOLS.
Hope you’re getting the message that I don’t think overriding and replacing those old protective/defensive responses that are our default way of behaving is something that is going to happen easily…..
In fact, let me UNDERLINE IT – it is NOT going to happen easily…….we need all the help we can get!
Several of the participants in the “Getting The Love You Want” Imago Couples Communication Workshop this weekend really appreciated THINK as a practice to support them to create ♡LOVE and connection and the ZERO NEGATIVITY ♥ZONE [ZNZ!]…..so it encouraged us to add it to our ♡TOOLBOX.
One of my favourite parts of the Workshop is giving the couples the ♡TOOLBOX with the various ♡TOOLS and teaching them how, when and where to use them. It is great that the ♡TOOLBOX is a work-in-progress and there are so many talented people out there coming up with exciting ideas all the time.
It’s such a joy to have creative user-friendly Resources that work that make a difference to people’s lives and ♡LOVE-ing.
Question for you: Share with a ♡Beloved whether THINK is a ♡TOOL you would like to experiment with practicing in your relationships – either using it yourself or requesting ‘the other’ – your partner/child/parent/co-worker/friend – to use it.
♡MIRRORING TOPIC: Share with someone what this post brings up for you, triggers in you, how it impacts you and have them ♡MIRROR you for a minimum of 5 minutes. Then swap and you ♡MIRROR their sharing.
See HERE for a review of the skill of ♡MIRRORING
Here’s another version of THINK you may prefer.
The following touched me recently so I thought I would “borrow” it:
Just the simple act of you sharing this post with a few people could have a profound impact on hundreds, or even thousands of people who you will probably never even meet.
How cool is that?
Thank You in advance for doing your part in helping make the world a better place☺
Here’s to lots of THINK-ING going on…..appreciatively & with Much ♥LOVE & BLESSINGS, Susie♥