Sunday 15th May 2011
What is your wish or dream of how the relationships that matter to you look like? You are invited to join our 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE/CHALLENGE/DREAM
Question for you: What do you wish for or dream about of how the relationships that matter to you look like?
Question for you: Are you ready to become more loving and loved?
Hey have a go at doing this will you? Choose someone you love and care about – someone who it is easy for you to like and love and you feel loved and liked and cared about by them. Let whoever comes up first in your mind be there……someone like your lover or your child or your best friend or your parent……
If you have a photo album, photos in a frame, or an album/folder in your pictures file in your computer, or a collage like a relationship vision or a vision board of you and them, it helps to get that out and use that to really fill your mind and heart and all your senses as you do this.
Use all of your senses to get a very clear picture – see yourself and them in lots of pictures – click…., click…., click…., or as if the video camera is running……. lots of different interactions with them, in a variety of situations – like you are flicking the pages of your photo album or watching a video – you and them in different environments, doing different things together – see the ease of being together, the closeness, the connection, the happiness, the smiles and the laughter, the caring and respect, the liking each other, loving each other, the just hanging out together doing whatever is important and easy for you both. Take a few minutes….just relish and delight in you and them being together – feel the enjoyment, the pleasure………..take a few moments to fully visualize this………
The pictures of ‘my loved one’ that I see are_____________________________
Remember and hear the conversations you have, hear their voice, their accent maybe, their sounds, how deep or soft their voice is, how fast or maybe slow or how deliberate they speak, their laughter…….
The sounds that I hear when I think of ‘my loved one’ are____________________
Maybe they have a distinctive smell or scent or fragrance that is them…..
The smell or fragrance of ‘my loved one’ that is special is_____________________
Now notice when you are with them or just thinking about them how that feels in your body……
In my body I notice___________________________
What is standing out for you right now? What are you feeling? What do you notice about your energy? What impacts you most? …………….Savour it………..noticing all there is to notice……
Now in a moment I’m going to ask you to think of another person who is important to you where your relationship is strained, or there’s stress and tension, or there’s conflict or maybe disconnection or perhaps you just don’t spend the time to nurture the relationship and yet you long to be closer to them…
I have spent together that were loving, fun, touching, relaxed, playful, adventuring, enjoyable, pleasurable, exciting…..just being close and connected….. It was easy as we do have lots of those sorts of times together. BUT it was also easy because we carry a camera most times and have an intention to capture those moments that are special and connecting that I am sure when I look through the files and folders I wouldn’t have remembered if we hadn’t taken a photo. We know that the mechanisms in our brains are so primed for noticing the negative and what we don’t like (translates to – what we consider unsafe) that we want and need to have a strong storehouse of positive moments etched in our brain ready and waiting for any times that there is a “falling out”, disagreement, stress, argument, conflict of whatever kind…….
We remember on all levels that we are each other’s good friend,….we’re on the same team……This is another way of building our Emotional Bank Account or Love Bank…
So in true ‘Mission Impossible’ form …..” Good morning/afternoon/evening, My Dears, Your mission, should you decide to accept it”…… is the 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE in relation to a person who is important to you where your relationship is strained, or there’s stress and tension, or there’s conflict or maybe disconnection or perhaps you just don’t spend the time to nurture the relationship and yet you long to be closer to them…..And “Should you or any of your assistants or accomplices or team become overwhelmed or distraught and forlorn in this process, we unlike the Secretary will not disavow any knowledge of your actions.” We will support you to stay on task. “This tape will NOT self-destruct in five seconds. And GOOD LUCK, my Dears!” :O)
I’m challenging EVERYONE who is reading this to take on this 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE. You wouldn’t have read this far if you weren’t interested in becoming more loving and loved. Forget about the excuses that might be popping up in your mind like – “I can’t because I don’t have the time – choose how much time you will daily allot and use a timer, I don’t have the resources, I don’t know what to do, it won’t make any difference, what about my never-ending To Do List I already have……..
You get to choose how much effort you put in. And you do what you do with no expectation or attachment to the other doing anything. The important thing to do is to MOVE and to ACT in some ways that is different to what you are already doing. You can put in whatever microMOVEments or quantum leaps that you choose. Even if it is only spending 5 minutes a day over the next 30 days –
And of course, remembering you get back what you put in, so you choose your actions based on what you want to receive and how different you want your relationship to be.
STEP 1 of your Mission/ACTION PLAN or what you have to do. Going from DREAM-ing to DO-ing – as SARK would say.
Click on leave a comment/leave a reply at end of this post and sign up for the 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE by telling us what your dream relationship is in relation to the person who is important to you where your relationship is strained, or there’s stress and tension, or there’s conflict or maybe disconnection or perhaps you just don’t spend the time to nurture the relationship and yet you long to be closer to them……make it specific to the person you are focusing on. Write about it as if it is already happening.
For example: My name is Susie and my 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE is putting in more time to being loving and giving attention to my sisters Wendy and Rhonda as my habit is when I get busy with my day-to-day life I neglect them and keep them in my mind and heart but don’t actually physically interact and connect with them as much as I would like them to experience me being there for them.
So my new picture is we talk with each other a couple of times a week – as we are here in Seattle and they are in Australia I can’t physically visit with them – and that fact motivates me to include making a date for when I return home to Australia;….. I am sharing the things that I think about them and telling them of the things that make me think about them – either by email, Skype or phone;…I am sending them the cards that I often write in my head and leave sitting on my desk; when I am out and about shopping I keep them in mind looking for and finding something special for them that I can send or take home; I come up with surprises that create delight in them;…..I find a photo of the three of us and/or myself with each of them and I put it on my desk and I look at them every day, and a minimum of once over the 30 days I will arrange for them to be indulged to do something that nourishes them. I make contact for a minimum of 5 minutes each day sending them an email or Skype or any messaging form that works best for them and me.
I will keep adding to and refining my new picture of my relationship with my sisters which you can do for your new relationship as you go along. You don’t have to have the perfect finished product straight away. Just the intention to start and declaring it! I hope this gives you the idea of what you need to do to get started. Leave a comment below if you need any more information or clarification.
STARTING DATE for the 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE is Friday 20th May 2011 so start writing and posting your intentions. (See about change of date to JUNE 1st in next post)
STEP 2 of your mission/ACTION PLAN – Going from DREAM-ing to DO-ing–
I recommend you create your own 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE Support Group/ENERGIZER BUDDIES for this life transforming TASK you are choosing. Having people to mentor and support you, to keep you to your intention and on track and to inspire you, will probably be the most important factor in whether your project succeeds. This could be just another person or a group of as many people as you like.
I urge you to challenge your friends or family – your partner, siblings, parents and children – or the other people you regularly interact with to do this BEING-LOVE DARE with you. Expand this to think of relatives, work-mates, colleagues, neighbours, customers, people in your churches, people in your schools, with your online buddies, your blogs, on Face book, guys at the pub you go to….. email, phone, blog, Skype, texting, all the forms of instant messaging and social media that you use – forward this to them; put it on your Face book page……. people in all your communities – get the message out for them to support you creating more love in your life AND their life.
PLEASE NOTE – SEEKING ENERGIZER BUDDIES….. If you are unable to find some people around you to have as your support network and you would like to buddy with other people who are posting here please request that as well.
To finish off let me share how powerful getting support is…I am part of a big online class led by SARK – http://www.planetsark.com/ of about 150 people and there are various ways we buddy up with each other. Recently I posted – Hi Folks,
I need some support and encouragement to stay on track with a project that is exciting me right now! I’m having a tussle with my Inner Critics who are being quite loud and draining my energy and inspiration. I need a loud, energized cheer squad to drown them out!!…. Susie xx
Support that came back was – Ramona sent you a comment on Dream Boogie with SARK –
Ah, Susie! I am so excited for you! – Your project sounds like it’s very, very important to you, isn’t it?
I’m sending you rays of courage, steadfastness and belief!
I am giving you permission slips to…
Believe that what you envision will arrive in your presence soon.
Believe that the forces of the universe, spirit, Mother Earth and your Muses (including your Inner Wise Being!) are all working right now and coordinating your project’s process, development and completion!
Believe in your Self to plan, create and otherwise do what is necessary to make this project a reality.
Believe in Your Own Power! You are so competent, sensitive and open to receiving! Yes, I sense all that and more in you.
With a loving hug to you and your precious project, be blessed! Ramona
I was so touched. Now I’ve only connected with Ramona online for 2 weeks yet my soul and energy took quantum leaps when I read that ….her belief in me and her generosity in giving to me energized me to keep on track and bring my project into creation. Just like the energizer bunnies in the battery advert, hey!! It is strong and it kept me going and going when I felt like giving it all up…… so I am giving the name to the people we choose to support us – ENERGIZER BUDDIES!
YOU are such a hero/heroine for reading this far. THANK YOU! THANK YOURSELF! I am grateful! The impact of what you choose for your project will be felt in many directions. Thank you for taking this huge act of courage and love. Think about the information I briefly shared recently in a previous e-newsletter from Lynne McTaggart’s new book The BOND http://www.thebond.net/ – Emotions of all types affect others – ideas of emotional contagion and emotions being infectious and influencing others – positive emotions creating a stampede…. What I do influences you and what you do influences me. The enormity of that is gigantic and awesome. One act of kindness has the ability to affect you, your friends, your friends’ friends and your friends’ friends’ friends ……and so on…ripples of kindness and love….
Here’s to visions of ‘emotional stampedes’ of love and healing and our ability to be more loving getting bigger and bigger…… …..Anyone can fall in Love. …Staying in Love and staying loving is another matter….
May your heart be full of joy and new visions, Susie xx
UPDATE ON 19th MAY: Following on from a few comments from people since this has been posted that it would work better for them to start at the beginning of the month as it would allow them to more easily know what day they are at, and as well it would give them a bit more time to prepare themselves, I have decided to push the starting date forward to June 1st so that the 30 DAY BEING-LOVE DARE is running from June 1st – 30th…..
Here are some wise SARK words: – Being WILLING is a microMOVEment– Saying YES is a beginning! …..WILLINGNESS and saying YES are the most crucial things to make dreams happen and for making changes in your life……Saying more YES-ES means more YES ENERGY!! Yay! …and some wise SUSIE words: We all have enough time to be more loving!…….
“Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“When we have arrived at the question, the answer is already near.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true.” Richard Bach
“The soul grows well when giving and receiving Love.
Love is after all, a verb, an action word, not a noun.” Joan Borysenko
“We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make, which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot see.” Marian Wright Edelman.
“This is a revolutionary view of relationships: rather than leaving it to find yourself, you find yourself through it – being the right partner is more important than picking the right partner.” Dr. Harville Hendrix.